About Labels are Hard

I have been practicing polyamory and relationship anarchy for over a decade. My approach is rooted in intentionality.

I write this publication for two reasons. First, it serves as a forcing function for myself to think more deeply about all the aspects of relating. Writing requires me to distill my own experiences, examine my blind spots, and continuously refine my own intentionality. Second, to share my thoughts and approach on this with others.

Why labels are hard

We use labels because they are efficient. However, it’s also worth remembering that this efficiency is inherently unnuanced and may cause problems. “Partner,” “friend,” or “acquaintance” are static boxes. Human connections are not. Labels are hard because they force dynamic, evolving relationships into pre-defined shapes. Plus, we all attach different definitions to the same word. It’s messy!

Engagement Policy

I welcome comments and discussion. Unconventional relationship structures require active dialogue. If you recognize a blind spot in my thinking, I welcome it being pointed out. The baseline I request for participation here is courtesy and the assumption of good will. 🤗

Contact

• For advice and frameworks: If you have a question about navigating a specific dynamic or boundary, please submit it through the Ask Mollie form.

• For everything else: For collaborations, feedback, or general inquiries, you can reach me at hi (at) labelsarehard (dot) com.

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